I think a relationship is something I would just do the “kick in the balls and go”.

You are a great example how a divorce can be the best thing ever happened :) You are so right, that these acts effect so many other people than just the spouse, and I think it is unforgivable for parents to do something like this to their children. Some people think it doesn’t have anything to do with other people, even their children, but it has everything to do with them!

Niinhan tuo riippuisi tilanteesta; esim.olisivatko lapset pienia ja pystyisiko heille yksin takaamaan turvatun tulevaisuuden. Jos ei, niin varmasti aika moni meista olisi valmis nielemaan melkoisesti sontaa lastensa hyvinvoinnin puolesta. Kotiaidit ovat usein varsin haavoittuvaisia tallaisissa tilanteissa, ikava kylla.

*Mietteliaana kohottaa han sullelle valkoviinilasinsa*

What IF Mrs S thought exactly of her marriage as you think about yours? What if everything was “perfect” and she “knew it would never happen to her”?

I have other friends too to whom this has happen, and the statistics say there is cheating in 20-50% of marriages in the US. That’s a lot! Makes me think – Why would my marriage be any different than most people’s?

But Mrs S – maybe she is just playing it smart by not doing anything in a spur of a moment. She stays, even seeks counseling, shows up at the press conference… shows that she “did everything” and when (I don’t think it’s an IF, cheater is a cheater) this happens again, Mrs S will divorce and sue Mr S and get everything, including his hot pants.

Think of Hillary C. – Bill C. got caught, but did she leave him? No, she stayed, probably put him suffer behind the closed doors (hope so after what he did :), and now he is her nro 1 campaigner. Do you think a divorced ex-first-lady would have a chance of even running for president?

So for the celebs and politicians there are public reasons to stay together (sometimes it’s best to break up for the same reason!), but I don’t think it’s that different among people like us. The reason might also be the mortgage, money, kids, even church or religion. Other things make it worth to stay for some people.

But like said – I’m with you Jane – if he’d cheat – I’m gone!

OK, on to your question… I honestly don’t think I would have been able to stand behind my husband at a press conference like Mrs. Spitzer did. I think I would have said, “You made the decisions. You did this to yourself. You go out there and announce to the world what an ass you are. I’ll be at home packing all my stuff.”

Of course, I don’t know what has gone on in their marriage… I am only basing my opinion on what MY marriage is like. If I found out that my husband was cheating on me – either with a prostitute or with someone at work – it would just be so outside of who I think he is as a person… so outside of what he stands for… so much so that I just think I’d have to say, “I really don’t know you. You are not the person I fell in love with. You are not the person you pretend to be.”

I feel fortunate to have a marriage that I feel so secure in that I just know we will never have to worry about infidelity on either side.

But if he did ever cheat? See ya! :)

Jane, Pinks & Blues