Comments on: Secret to Happy Marriage “Remember When..” Talk

By: Best friend from high school | Skimbaco Lifestyle

Best friend from high school | Skimbaco Lifestyle — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 10:32:36 +0000

[...] wrote a while ago how my husband and I have the “remember when..” talk regularly, but in general I live in the moment and don’t spend much time thinking the [...]

By: Jendi

Jendi — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 20:07:23 +0000

We married in 1998 so this past May was 12 years for us. Congrats to you for sticking it out and not walking.
I enjoy the remember whens, but my hubby tends to roll his eyes. :) I think he likes them anyway.

By: Naomi

Naomi — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:00:10 +0000

A good reminder! It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind and forget why you got together in the first place.

By: Tamara (The UnExperienced Mom)

Tamara (The UnExperienced Mom) — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 03:18:51 +0000

I’d have to agree, both as a marriage/family counselor and a wife. We try to have the “remember when” talks because it grounds us and brings us back to a place of familiarity again. The phase we are at currently is filled with tons of transitions, and not all friendly, so we have to rely on our “remember when’s” to stay focused. It’s hard and my mom always said relationships do take work, but if you can tap back into those past moments, the work doesn’t seem quite as hard.

GREAT post!

Tamara
http://theunexperiencedmom.blogspot.com

By: Divina

Divina — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:53:59 +0000

Wow thank you for such an honest post. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and every day is still an adventure. I will try to remember this when 11 plus names.

By: Krista

Krista — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:16:23 +0000

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By: Myrna

Myrna — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:49:25 +0000

Very poignant piece Katja. Your recommendations are something worth remembering – what a great tool to use! Remembering… I’ll have to make my own list.

By: Leah @Bookieboo

Leah @Bookieboo — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:22:15 +0000

I think having the hard times with my husband keeps us solidified so we can enjoy the good times. So in a way, I’m grateful for our struggles because they draw us closer every time. And I mean struggles outside of our marriage…things we can’t control..sicknesses, deaths, etc. We have had plenty of these since we’ve been married. And they always seem to be a blessing in disguise.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:28:04 +0000

What a wonderful post, thank you for the reminder of “Remeber When” sometimes life just gets in the way and you are too busy or just too tired to “Remeber” I think after the kids are in bed tonight, I will take the time and some snacks and snuggle up with hubby and “Remeber When” tonight..

By: Jill C

Jill C — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:25:26 +0000

Great post! We too almost ended it about 6 years ago…and I am thankful we didn’t. Marriage is a lot of work – no doubt, but worth every minute of it – if you are with the RIGHT person! I have been with my husband for 18 years (married for 8)…he has always been my best friend and no matter how bad things may get sometimes…we always laugh and find things to joke about….that is what I try to remember when I get “aggravated”. Every night we laugh about something….but I often here my friends say they haven’t laughed with their husband in ages…so that .makes me realize I do have something worth working at and holding on to. I love my husband with all my heart…its a much different kind of love than I had 18 years ago…but sometimes when I think it may be better if we were not together….I remember our laughter….our beautiful daughter…all the challenges….all the good times….all the experiences I haven’t shared with him yet and how truly empty my life would be without him….all of these thoughts make me realize there is just no one else for me……he may not be perfect…he may not be romantic…but he is fun, handsome, strong, hardworking, smart and the best damn dad in the world! What more could I ask for?

Great post!!!!!