We are back home from our vacation in Texas. We actually got back already on Thursday. When I get a chance, I will tell you more about our trip, and especially share some great photos from San Antonio and SeaWorld.
Vacationing is tiring! And so are big family weddings!
And now I have been so busy with catching up on work things and I am feeling a little overwhelmed. Oh why I thought a vacation was a good idea?
Being an entrepreneuer is tough. It’s even tougher to be a Mompreneur.
Trying to balance the work and family is difficult – it is just impossible to work full time even from home and keep your house clean at all times, cook dinner every night, be the taxi driver to school and baseball games, not to even mention trying to spend quality time with the kids (does watching Food Network together count? Baking apple pies does, right?).
Yes, being your own boss makes it easy to take days off and relax when ever you want to. I have been trying to relax more, spend more time with the kids, and even took a few days off during past winter just because there was fresh snow in the slopes.
Yes, I have to make myself to go and see my kids’ baseball games, and first 15 minutes are hell because I’m thinking all the work related things I should be doing at the moment. Sitting down and not doing anything is not easy for me – even if it’s watching the kiddos play ball. I’m able to relax for a while, and then it starts again – thinking the work stuff.
Yes, I turn off the computer sometimes just to spend time with my husband. To be honest, I forgot to do this for a while when I first got started with my business. I thought, surely he understands that I’m working on computer all the time – I had to get my business going.
But me, him and the kids are a team, and one team member just can’t stop working for our team, even if she/he starts a business. Believe me, spending some quality time with your husband does make your “family team” work better and in the long run your business work better too. Heck, there is no way I could have done this much with my business, if my husband wasn’t helping!
First when I started planning on opening an online store, I wanted my husband to be part of this – he is actually the Vice President of our company. I was hoping the company would be “our thing”, not just “my thing”. Now I’ve realized that while my husband does help with server problems or even takes a few packages to the post office every now and then, the best help for me isn’t him being involved with the business. The best help is him being the Super Dad for our kids he is, and helping at home. And being the Super Husband for me.
I admit, I was upset at first that my husband wasn’t really interested in the exciting worlds of children’s fashion or online marketing. And I was very upset that our site launch took two months longer than expected, because my husband was in charge of it. Now I realize that I should have appreciated more the work he was doing since day one – like making me a sandwich for lunch (because otherwise I wouldn’t have stopped working to eat), cooking dinner or doing all our grocery shopping (for the past one year). The little things he does everyday together are a Huge Help I couldn’t live without – or couldn’t run a business without.
While our “family business” might do much better today if my husband was a marketing enthusiast and a social networking guru – our “family team” might not do that great at all, if both parents were crazy workaholics like me. (Yes, hubby has a full time job, and he is devoted to his job as a rescue helicopter pilot, but he never brings work home. When he is home – he is 100% Dad & Husband – business partner, not so much).
The reason for me to start my own business was to hopefully make a better future for my kids – I’m not looking into making rich here, but I’d like my three kids have the ability and money to go to college some day. But wouldn’t it be controversial to hope for the best future for your kids if you weren’t present in their lives now? This is the dilemma many parents have today.
While I would love to say and pretend that I have it all figured out – I have made a career for myself while being home with the kids – it’s not that easy. I pride myself being a “good mom” and taking my kids to school and picking them up, and making them lunch and dinner every day. But the thing is – I don’t have 9-5 work hours, and my work day is never really over, and it is difficult to be just “mom”. I sneak work time while the potatoes are boiling, or do business calls while driving kids (and giving them bad looks so they’ll be quiet on the backseat). It’s not easy to do it all.
While I am proud of myself that I was able to keep the computer off during our vacation, and do as little work as possible, now I’m feeling really overwhelmed – I have been working non-stop since we got back home, and the vacation already seems a century away! I think the solution is to have mini-vacations, long weekends, or taking just one day off every now and then just for fun, and just for family. Making relaxing a habit is healhty and good for your business too.
While it may sound I’m just “complaining” because of the work overload after the vacation, it really isn’t the full truth. I’m actually so full of new ideas, I’m filled with this “get it done” attitude – and that’s why it’s a bit overwhelming!
So many exciting things happened during the vacation, like one Australian magazine will be covering the Suri’s shoe story! I don’t believe it before I see it – seems so amazing to be true – Skimbaco getting international press. I’m trying to get an Amazon store opened, the CafePress store is going strong – and I will try to work on and answer all my Ladybug Landings’ e-mails as soon as possible. So many ideas cooking – just be patient with me, I’m working as fast as I can, lots of good stuff coming!
And also – visit MumsTheWurd on Sunday evening – they are starting a new feature, Podcasts, on their site, and I will be in their first ever PodCast!