Run, mommy, run

March 8, 2009 VIP Guest Blogger

Guest post by Vanessa Brown

I am going to run a marathon.

I still cannot believe those words come out of my mouth and that I have been training for a marathon for over three months now. I told everyone I knew, online friends, family, and friends in the neighborhood that I was going to run a marathon. You really do not get the best reactions a lot of the time, but it gives you even more reason to run the marathon to prove them wrong!

Ten whole miles.

I can now run ten miles without completely collapsing onto my driveway when I am done. I have always wanted to be a runner even though eight weeks ago running a single mile was almost impossible.  I have always looked up to marathon runners for their strength, determination and stamina. It has been on my mind for a few years to run but I have either been pregnant or nursing for three and half years straight and it was pushed to the back of my mind.

When my baby turned one I realized I did not have an excuse any longer!  I logged onto twitter and simply typed, “I want to be a runner, how do I start?” I had some smart aleck replies but one person twittered back recommending a book for marathon running. The book she suggested was, The Non Runners Marathon Trainer by David Whitsett, Forrest Dolgener and Tanjala Kole .  I found it online and bought it that second.  As soon as the mailman dropped off the book I read the first couple of chapters and knew I was going to do it.  I jotted down the weeks of training and knew that I would need to find a May marathon to run.  As if it was meant to be there was a marathon the exact weekend just an hour and half away in Ogden, Utah, that I quickly signed up for.

Finding the time and arranging schedules to find care for my children has been a struggle in preparing for my first marathon. But, it has been worth it to diligently stick with my training schedule, to prepare myself to run my first marathon. Training for a marathon has improved my night’s sleep (I have been an off-and-on insomniac for years), decreased my appetite for unhealthy foods, increased my daily energy and continues to help diminish my “two babies in a row extra poundage.”

More than anything, the greatest improvement in myself while training for a marathon has been how it helped my emotional and mental health. When I first started training, I used negative feelings and thoughts to try to “motivate” myself–thinking somehow it would produce the positive result of helping me to finish my daily runs. While running I thought it would help to, in my mind, compare myself to the women I wanted to look like after completing the marathon. I would try to focus on the extra “jiggle jiggle” my extra poundage would make every time my foot hit the pavement.

During one of my late night runs where I usually would have started to use negative “encouragement” to get myself through the hard parts, I finally had it with myself. I broke out in a huge grin because I was happy and proud of myself and realized I had come so far in my training. I was focusing on the wrong goal and losing focus on my desire to become a marathoner. While training for a marathon, I have learned to focus on just that and put away any other hidden agendas. I let everything negative go and now only use positive methods of encouragement to get myself through my daily running goals. Telling myself, “I can do this, I am a marathoner! Look at how far I have come!” and allowing myself to be proud is what helps me.

In the training book I am using as a guide to help me through this journey, The Non Runners Marathon Trainer by David Whitsett, Forrest Dolgener, Tanjala Kole, it talks about the importance of envisioning your goals. In your mind you create short movies, to watch mentally when you need encouragement, to get yourself through the hard part of your run. These “movies” you play are positive experiences that you have had during past runs and the positive experience you will have when you complete your marathon. Playing these “movies” and envisioning your future success actually helps you mentally and physically through hard marathon training times.

Running has been quite therapeutic for me because I have learned to love myself. I have also learned how unhealthy it is to compare myself to others. The positive thinking I have started while running is changing me into a more positive person overall. Deciding to train for a marathon has been the best thing I have done for myself. It is helping me to become a stronger woman for my girls to look up to and for me to be proud of. I have chosen to live my life to the fullest by becoming a marathoner!

Guest post by Vanessa Brown.

More from Vanessa, visit her at I Never Grew Up where she blogs ideas and reviews to keep your children educated, entertained and cared for.

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Comments (4)

  1. How exciting! Good luck with the run. We are doing the Make-a-Wish annual 5K but we are just walking. Maybe next year I can plan to jog, LOL.

  2. Rock on, Vanessa! I trained for 2 marathons before kids. After I had kids I stopped running for nearly 5 years. Like you, there was always an excuse, and then one day I had run out of excuses. My marathon days are over, but I’m in the middle of training for a half marathon in May. I agree with you, the task of arranging childcare and scheduling runs to fit into a day with young children is no easy task.

    I love your honesty about trying to motivate yourself with negative thoughts and how it wasn’t working. I was hoping the weight would slide right off after I started running and that hasn’t been the case. Your post made me realize that instead of focusing on what I’m not losing, perhaps I should be proud of myself for what I’m gaining: a healthier lifestyle, learning to schedule time for me in the day, an amazing accomplishment just to put on your running shoes and head out the door.

    Best of luck in your marathon!

  3. Awesome! Good for you, Vanessa! I, too, am training for my first marathon, which is taking place May 3. I am super excited. I ran cross country in high school and have run a 1/2 marathon before, but a full one has been my goal for a long time. I’ll be sure to keep up with your progress as your marathon gets closer!!

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