Live a Little: Focus in YOU

September 3, 2012 Katja Presnal

Focusing in myself.. easier said than done?

This week I encourage you to live a little and focus in YOU and what makes you happy.

This should be and could be a sunshine filled post, but it’s not.
Because I get it. I totally get why this is not as easily done as said for many of us.
Can we do this together? Because this is kind of important.

Focusing on YOURSELF comes easy for some people, but I’m not one of them. So much of the joys in life for me come from seeing other people happy that I often forget to think what makes me happy and what I want to do for ME. I want to bake to surprise the family, seeing them happy makes me happy. I want to write here, because I want to inspire you to live life to the fullest, and knowing that I touch lives makes me happy. I want to travel the world with my kids and see them grow global citizens, that makes me happy.

I’m also so busy pleasing other people and making sure they are happy, that they often forget to ask me what I really would like. My family asked me this weekend what I wanted to do, and instead of saying, my answer was frustrated “what does it matter, we never do what I want to do anyways” – do you sometimes feel the same way? I don’t know which I’m more frustrated that my family doesn’t always enjoy the same things as I do, or the fact that I don’t even know from the top of my head what I would like to do FOR ME.

I feel often that my life is a sum of compromises, and even the compromises became someone else’s compromises, and I am just trying to juggle to make everyone else around me happy and make the best out of everything. I’m not saying I’m not happy, I am. I’m very flexible, very adjustable and I can always find the best of everything, and I can have a great time almost anywhere with the right people. Part of my life quest is finding that beauty everywhere and enjoy what I have right now. But when I am asked “but WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT,” it’s not as easy to answer. And yet, it’s the most important question of them all. It is important to define what you want, what your goals in life you have, and not just defining where you want to go but how you want your journey to look like. There is the “big picture” and there is the “small picture”. I think I’m doing OK with the Big Picture, but the everyday stuff, not so much.

Live a little: ask yourself what can you do for YOU

Let’s start with the small picture and live a little and dedicate this week for focusing on ourselves.

What can you do right now for YOU?

Not to please anyone else, not to check off a to-do thing of your list, not to do something for your kids, family, spouse, friends or boss.

This week I want to color my hair, join a gym, buy something to pamper me, like a new perfume (when the heck did everyday product like perfume start feeling like “pampering”???), and talk more on phone with friends, and make solid plans to see friends face to face, even though it takes time, money and organizing and it’s inconvenient for my family.

What will you do?

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Katja Presnal

Katja Presnal shows how to live Nordic inspired life to the fullest and plan your dream life. Katja owns Presnal5 strategic marketing intelligence agency and wants to help marketing professionals to combine a dream career and dream life via freelance work.Katja is an award-winning marketing strategist, and a well-known speaker. Katja has lived in five different countries, and seven states in the USA. Her three children were all born in different countries within three years. When not working or jet-setting the world, Katja is at home cooking big family dinners.She has been featured in NY Times, Glamour, Redbook, Fodor's, Forbes and Woman's Day magazines among many other national and international publications and written for MTV3 and Lifetime TV networks.

Comments (6)

  1. Thanks for this much needed topic. I’m so bad at focusing on me. This week I’m going to finally get my hair done and buy some clothing just for me!

  2. I am definitely focusing on me this week—I have a massage scheduled on Thursday and a haircut on Friday and am going to spend some time working on a vision board for 2012-2013. I am not always good at making time for me, but adding concrete visuals to represent my goals for the year is going to be a good step for me in that direction.

  3. I am surprised Katja as I would think you would be focused on on what you want out of life. I really do not think that people can be happy giving all of the time. I don’t know, maybe I am made wrong or something but I have to have my me time and hopes and dreams or I will get squashed and lose myself. If I get squashed no one else will have me to help them with homework or life. You know. SO important to take the time to figure out who we each really are and what makes us tick.

    • Enjoy Life Oils

      Yes – focused on the Big Picture yes, but the Small Picture.. not so much. Making others happy does give me pleasure, and on day to day life I find it very difficult to be selfish and do almost anything just for ME.

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